Itisthissystemofdissimulation,throughoutthevolume,thatI
despise。WomenarealwaystoSEEMtobethisandthat——yetvirtuemightapostrophizethem,inthewordsofHamlet——Seems！Iknownotseems！——Havethatwithinthatpassethshow！——
Stillthesametoneoccurs;forinanotherplace,afterrecommending,（withoutsufficientlydiscriminating）delicacy,headds,\"Themenwillcomplainofyourreserve。Theywillassureyouthatafrankerbehaviourwouldmakeyoumoreamiable。But,trustme,theyarenotsincerewhentheytellyouso。Iacknowledgethatonsomeoccasionsitmightrenderyoumoreagreeableascompanions,butitwouldmakeyoulessamiableaswomen:animportantdistinction,whichmanyofyoursexarenotawareof。\"
Thisdesireofbeingalwayswomen,istheveryconsciousnessthatdegradesthesex。Exceptingwithalover,Imustrepeatwithemphasis,aformerobservation——itwouldbewelliftheywereonlyagreeableorrationalcompanions。ButinthisrespecthisadviceiseveninconsistentwithapassagewhichImeantoquotewiththemostmarkedapprobation。
\"Thesentiment,thatawomanmayallowallinnocentfreedoms,providedhervirtueissecure,isbothgrosslyindelicateanddangerous,andhasprovedfataltomanyofyoursex。\"WiththisopinionIperfectlycoincide。Aman,orawoman,ofanyfeelingmustalwayswishtoconvinceabelovedobjectthatitisthecaressesoftheindividual,notthesex,thatisreceivedandreturnedwithpleasure;and,thattheheart,ratherthanthesenses,ismoved。Withoutthisnaturaldelicacy,lovebecomesaselfishpersonalgratificationthatsoondegradesthecharacter。